What is Integrated Open Relating? 

I used to call this Relational Nonmonogamy, but relational felt like too vague a term, and nonmonogamy felt like defining relating by what we’re not doing rather than what we are doing. Integrated Open Relating is rooted in the belief that loving relationships are not just ethical and consensual, but also integrated with our values, strengthened by mutual empowerment, build security, increase wellbeing, and are a source of pleasure and meaning in our lives. Integrated Open Relating honors that we are not just a bunch of individual actors, but that we are also the caretakers of our relational ecosystem, and thus how we move through the world and treat one another matters. Integrated Open Relating values power with instead of power over, meaning, nobody is more important than anyone else, no one is trying to control anyone else, and power isn't zero sum, but rather sharing power gives everyone more power. Integrated Open Relating embraces discomfort and vulnerability and messiness, because inside those things is intimacy and connection and deep understanding.

How long is this program?

The program lasts 16 weeks. If you join, please be ready to commit to participating for the full 16 weeks.

Is this for individuals or couples? 

Yes! Individuals or couples (or triads or quads or more!) may participate. However, each individual must register separately. (Why? Because I don't want to privilege coupled people over individuals! Google "couple privilege" for more information about that.)

It is HIGHLY encouraged that you invite people from your relational ecosystem to join you - partners, sure but also friends, family members, queerplatonic life partners... you name it. And if you bring in someone you know, you will have the opportunity to work with Libby directly on your relationship TOGETHER during group coaching.

If it’s a group program, will I get personal attention?

Yes! Participants will be able to receive coaching by Libby during the group coaching calls. Not every participant will be receive coaching on every call, but everyone who wants one will get a turn. Also, you’d be surprised how often someone else is working on the same issue that you are! If there’s a desire for more individual attention, you will have the option to book up to 2 private sessions with Libby at a discounted rate.

How often are calls?

Once a week. Each week, there will be a 2-hour group coaching call centered around a weekly theme. The theme will be on one aspect of one of the pillars. The coaching call will be a chance to ask questions, integrate the learning, and receive individualized coaching on whatever issue is alive for you that week.

What if I can't make the calls?

If you have to miss a call, each call will be recorded and available for download - you can keep them forever. While I encourage you to join all calls live, this is not a requirement. You can still participate via the online group, especially around the teaching material. However, even though the calls are recorded, if you cannot make the majority of the calls live, I encourage you to wait and join the group at a more convenient time for you, as being “live” with your cohort is one of the benefits of the program.

How many hours each week do I need to have available?

There is a total of 2 hours of calls each week.  In addition, there is a recorded video module (15-30 minutes in length) that you are encouraged to watch each week. Be prepared to spend maybe 1-2 hours a week for practice, reflection, etc.

Is there accessibility pricing?

I endeavor to keep all my offerings as affordable as I can while also setting prices that reflect the value and time it takes to create them. That said, I’m also committed to making my offerings accessible, while also making sure that my work can sustain my life. There are two ways I have worked to make this program accessible for folks:

1: There is a payment plan available at no additional cost for everyone.

2: Sliding scale discounts.

Sliding scale discounts are intended to support people who have systemic or historic economic hardship in accessing support. If you are experiencing temporary cash flow problems, I encourage you to just wait until you have the available funds and pay the full price.

If you would like to access the sliding scale discounts, here are the guidelines and instructions to access those discounts.

Tier 2 - 30% off

If you are struggling to conquer debt or build savings or move away from paycheck to paycheck living but have access to steady income and are not spending most of your time thinking about meeting basic needs such as food, shelter, medical care, child care, etc. and don't have partners or family members as a source of financial support, consider this tier.

If you type in the code TIER2 at checkout - you will get 30% off the full price.

Tier 3 - 60% off

If you are historically marginalized, disabled or struggle to maintain access to needs such as health care, housing, food, child care, and are living paycheck to paycheck or are in significant debt, consider this tier.

If you type in the code TIER3 at checkout - you will get 60% off the full price.

Sliding scale discounts apply to the one-time payment and the payment plans equally.

Are there refunds?

If you are unable to participate in the course, and give noticed at least 1 week prior to the start, you may receive a refund minus a $50 administrative fee or you can transfer your registration to another cohort up to 18 months in the future. Once the course has started, you can receive a 50% refund. If you are part of the course for more than 2 weeks, your tuition is not refundable.

Will there be replays?

You will be able to download all recordings of calls and teachings for your personal use indefinitely.